Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Odd (wo)man out




I have been so busy with life in general that I have not blogged in ages. Sorry about that! Summer break is in full swing and the kids are keeping me busy. 60 people were laid off from my company this week and I am breathing a sigh of relief that at least for now I wasn't one of them. Times are tough right now and I wish hard everyday for something truly good to happen to boost the country's morale.




Laura and Julia are home until school starts again August 18. Needless to say the noise level has increased exponentially in the house. They are frequently bored but play together quite nicely. They are true sisters and I hope that never changes. But it makes me wish I'd gone ahead and had a 6th blessing to be Emma's buddy. She wants so very much to be a part of the older girls' clique and Patrik and I try very hard to encourage her inclusion, but I also understand why they want to play alone most of the time. Emma is little, doesn't get the fine aspects of Barbie or school play, and gets into their "stuff". She just so wants to be BIG. And of course it isn't the same when the older girls are forced to allow Emma to join them. Emma is loud and demanding and smart and wants her way (ah, 3 year olds). Even coaching her to play their way doesn't change the fact that she is who she is.


I give the older girls plenty of space but sometimes I just can't stand Emma's loneliness. Not for me...I readily sit with her and watch her shows and read her stories. But the other night the older girls were having a ball in Laura's room and Emma sat alone, silent, at the computer and my heart just broke. I don't know the answer to this and I worry worry that there will always be some seperation between the twosome and Emma. She is different in her own lovely way but so tiny, really. Only been alive for 43 months. Jeez.


I hope that as she grows it will be easier for her to meld with her sisters, that she won't always be the odd man out. And for now I do my best to let her know that she is so very important, and loved, and perfect just the way she is.


Because she is.






ps...and she's FINALLY out of diapers! Praise the Lord!






*thinking of you and wishing you well, Uncle Tom*

7 comments:

Joe L. said...

No worries, I was the odd man out in the family, but I turned out ok!

Susan said...

Poor Emmybelle! I hope they do play with her sometimes. She will eventually grow into it but they do say with 3 one is always left out. :( Are there any kids in the neighborhood that can come over and play sometimes?
Why does Joe think he was odd man out?

Leslie said...

JOE!!!! I don't think you were odd man out. I think Mark probably was. If there was someone I wanted to play with it was you, kid!

((Mark))

Joe L. said...

LOL Well I don't remember when I was that young, but when we started getting into school and stuff, you had your friends mostly, and I had mine! I suppose we did hang out though!
Never mind!!

Susan said...

At times all three of you were odd, but I don't know if that counts!

Susan said...

I want you to know that I love this photo. Look how well defined my jaw line is. ;)

Leslie said...

No kids her age AT ALL. Joe thinks he was odd man out because he has a skewed perception of reality! To this day.

HAHA!

I can only keep encouraging the older girls to include her...and hope for the best!

See? I shoulda had just that one more...